[disclaimer; please note that i’m not telling anyone what to do with their fanfic etc. their relationship is still very much in progress, and i’m a big fan of elaborate headcanons besides. but i want to solely talk about what i see in canon]
okay, so, all throughout fiction you can find tons of manipulative chessmasters and the wide-eyed ingenues that love them. what i appreciate about the sansa and petyr dynamic is that it thoroughly deconstructs that dynamic, and, in its place, shows a thoroughly unglamorous relationship.
furthermore, i also feel that petyr has no genuine affection or caring for sansa, nor is he invested in the idea of her learning from him and gaining power. he gives her praise- crumbs, really- to let her think he’s better than the lannisters, but mostly he wants to keep her as a docile pawn. sansa, meanwhile, is not particularly impressed by petyr, and is largely repulsed by him. she might have moments of appreciation for his accomplishments, but otherwise she is thoroughly aware of how dangerous he is.
[cw for: emotional abuse, sexual abuse, human trafficking]